Had some lovely advice today from a good friend who is also a counsellor, acupuncturist and trainee midwife. She said when she has to have one of those difficult 'talks' with her partner she has learnt to go for a walk with him...
It is too easy to become overly emotional in the privacy of your home and it is better to be on neutral ground rather than at either one of your houses.
It can be distracting going for coffee as you may run into friends or people you know who will want to engage in conversation.
Restaurants can also be tricky as waiters come over and helpfully ask you whether you would like water, as is their job, however in the middle of a heated conversation this can be most unwelcome!
She suggested going for a walk in the woods. Being surrounded by nature is very soothing and you have space here to breathe and be together without any distractions of modern life.
Turn off your mobile phones and give yourselves a set amount of time, say around an hour, to hash out your issues together. Make your objective to be working towards a resolution rather than taking this as an opportunity to give each other a hard time.
Walking while you are dealing with emotional problems will also serve to release your pent up energy and give a focus to your body's fight or flight sensations that may be activated when certain buttons are pushed during your talk.
Finally, walking together doesn't have to be saved for only when you need to have difficult talks! It's also great to take walks with your partner to bond and spend time talking about good things too.
Walking together in parks, woodlands and countryside settings can help you both to reconnect with nature and each other, but with a sense of space and freedom that also works to rebalance your relationship too.
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