Cheating Myths

Interesting article: 5 Myths About Cheating

Mental Health and Relationships...

http://storify.com/time_to_change/5-perspectives-on-mental-health-and-relationships

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Love is Easy, Relationships are Hard...

Cute little spoken word piece:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lxgzbUc4xJg&feature=youtu.be

Enjoy!

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To Divorce, or Not to Divorce...

This is interesting food for thought:

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/3041/is-divorce-the-answer-for-you.html

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Anti-Valentines

This is lovely reading...

https://apps.facebook.com/theguardian/lifeandstyle/2012/feb/14/money-gone-love-alternative-currency

Happy anti-Valentines day!!

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Men Are More Emotionally Sensitive Than Women...

It seems counterintuitive but it's true. When women are upset or angry with their male partners, it triggers all kinds of emotional responses.

It dates back to those primitive cavemen days when men had to go out and hunt for food and women stayed home and looked after the children.

The fight or flight response was necessary for survival, so when faced with threat or danger, the male's nervous system would be flooded with cortisol and adrenalin, ready for battle or to run away.

Neither of these reactions are probably helpful when his female partner wants to be comforted and reassured because she is upset about something and he shouts at her, or when she wants to talk things through and he walks out on her...but these are often the results of that emotional response.

So recognise that pattern next time you get caught up in a frustrating emotional interaction and give yourselves some time to calm down before you revisit the topic of conversation and see if you can work out a solution when you are both in a more rational state of mind...

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Don't Throw it Out; Work it Out!

I have a new cardigan, which I love. Yay!

However, it's so annoying, because my bag keeps getting caught on it and pulling at the threads. My cardigan is not looking so new any longer... :(

However, my new cardigan and bag go really well together and I like this outfit. Sigh...

So what's that got to do with anything I hear you say...well it got me thinking about how relationships work, of course!

Sometimes in relationships you can go together really well, it looks good, it just works. But in spite of that  you can get caught on each other and pull at your threads.

Sometimes, it's going to be one of you that seems to suffer more (cardigan) and one of you who is less affected (bag). So then what?

Either you don't wear the bag and cardigan together (break up) and try to find another outfit combination that doesn't catch as much, but maybe doesn't match as well in terms of colour, or style etc.

Or, you have to be very careful when you wear this combination, not to catch your cardigan on your bag, which can be uncomfortable and annoying.

Or what I did was figure out which part of the bag was catching - it happened to be the zip - and fixed it so that the bit sticking out didn't catch anymore. Problem solved!

So my point is this. In relationships, sometimes you can catch each other and pull at your threads (hurt each other's feelings).

You can either give up on the relationship and choose something else that doesn't catch, but maybe isn't as good in other areas.

Or you can stay in the relationship (keep wearing the same bag and cardigan together) and try to be careful, but still get irritated that the cardigan inevitably gets caught on and is eventually spoilt, so you give up on it anyway.

Or you can spend a little time investigating what it is about the bag that catches the cardigan and how to alter it so that it no longer happens, or happens less frequently or easily.

By that I mean, spend some time figuring out what it is about you and your partner that catches on your threads and figure out how to minimise this damage so you are free to enjoy the rest of your relationship for everything good and lovely that it is...

In short, if you like it - don't throw it out; work it out.

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