Is romance the Milk Tray man dressed in black, sweeping into your window in the dead of night with a box of chocolates and a bunch of red roses? Or is it about something much more personal, meaningful and vulnerable?
To me, I would say true romance is consideration. Making consideration for and also showing you know your partner through the actions you make. Generic romance like buying a bunch of flowers isn’t romantic if your partner suffers from hayfever and doesn’t like flowers, or a box of chocolates when you know they are watching their weight!
It's the little gestures, like bringing you a glass of water at night and leaving it by your side of the bed. Or buying your favourite cereal and soya milk when you stay over because they know you are lactose intolerant. Just knowing what your partner likes or dislikes and factoring that in when making decisions can be hugely romantic. It shows you are considering them and care for them and their happiness and well being.
Romance doesn't have to be grossly extravagant or expensive either. It doesn't take a lot of thought to buy an expensive labelled or designer gift to make an impression on your lover. However, noticing that your beloved has a specific need and making the effort to meet that need for them, for example if you know your partner keeps losing their socks and you buy them a bumper pack of 10 pairs, that can be hugely more romantic than an overtly expensive gift that is not needed or considered.
Saying that, a designer handbag or two never went amiss with any lady I've ever known!!
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