Don't Throw it Out; Work it Out!

I have a new cardigan, which I love. Yay!

However, it's so annoying, because my bag keeps getting caught on it and pulling at the threads. My cardigan is not looking so new any longer... :(

However, my new cardigan and bag go really well together and I like this outfit. Sigh...

So what's that got to do with anything I hear you say...well it got me thinking about how relationships work, of course!

Sometimes in relationships you can go together really well, it looks good, it just works. But in spite of that  you can get caught on each other and pull at your threads.

Sometimes, it's going to be one of you that seems to suffer more (cardigan) and one of you who is less affected (bag). So then what?

Either you don't wear the bag and cardigan together (break up) and try to find another outfit combination that doesn't catch as much, but maybe doesn't match as well in terms of colour, or style etc.

Or, you have to be very careful when you wear this combination, not to catch your cardigan on your bag, which can be uncomfortable and annoying.

Or what I did was figure out which part of the bag was catching - it happened to be the zip - and fixed it so that the bit sticking out didn't catch anymore. Problem solved!

So my point is this. In relationships, sometimes you can catch each other and pull at your threads (hurt each other's feelings).

You can either give up on the relationship and choose something else that doesn't catch, but maybe isn't as good in other areas.

Or you can stay in the relationship (keep wearing the same bag and cardigan together) and try to be careful, but still get irritated that the cardigan inevitably gets caught on and is eventually spoilt, so you give up on it anyway.

Or you can spend a little time investigating what it is about the bag that catches the cardigan and how to alter it so that it no longer happens, or happens less frequently or easily.

By that I mean, spend some time figuring out what it is about you and your partner that catches on your threads and figure out how to minimise this damage so you are free to enjoy the rest of your relationship for everything good and lovely that it is...

In short, if you like it - don't throw it out; work it out.

xxx