It seems counterintuitive but it's true. When women are upset or angry with their male partners, it triggers all kinds of emotional responses.
It dates back to those primitive cavemen days when men had to go out and hunt for food and women stayed home and looked after the children.
The fight or flight response was necessary for survival, so when faced with threat or danger, the male's nervous system would be flooded with cortisol and adrenalin, ready for battle or to run away.
Neither of these reactions are probably helpful when his female partner wants to be comforted and reassured because she is upset about something and he shouts at her, or when she wants to talk things through and he walks out on her...but these are often the results of that emotional response.
So recognise that pattern next time you get caught up in a frustrating emotional interaction and give yourselves some time to calm down before you revisit the topic of conversation and see if you can work out a solution when you are both in a more rational state of mind...
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