Turnaround

I'm very much enjoying the work of Byron Katie at the moment:

http://thework.com/downloads/little_book/English_LB.pdf

In this little online book she uses a CBT type approach where you take the painful thought, question if it is true and then turn it around.

For example:

Belief: "I'm working so hard to forgive him and he doesn't acknowledge it or help me at all."

Turnaround: "He's working so hard to forgive me and I don't acknowledge it or help him at all."

- Perhaps you both have something to forgive and neither of you help the other?

Belief: "I don't know if you will or can change."

TA "You don't know if I will or can change."

TA "I don't know if I will or can change."

- Are we projecting our own fears and fallibility onto others?

When we turnaround our beliefs and explore all the options, sometimes we realise that the truth is not always the truth, but a painful thought we believe to be true. 

The thought disempowers us as we suffer at its meaning. 

But reality does not change, everything is as it is and as it is meant to be and by fighting with 'shoulds' and 'should nots' in our heads, we are fighting reality! 

Let life lead you rather than you trying to lead life. Don't swim against the current, it will wear you out!

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