Where are my socks?!

This post by Dr Margaret Paul made me laugh today:

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/3248/im-neat-hes-messy-what-can-i-do.html

But in particular, this paragraph is very sobering and resonates loudly to me in my work and I wanted to share:

'I tell people over and over again, "You get what you see. If you are not okay with the way the person is right now, then end the relationship before getting more deeply involved. The person may or may not change, but you can't change them. And change is very unlikely unless the person is already on a path of personal growth and wants to heal the issue. If the issue is not perceived by them as a problem, then it is unlikely that change will occur, no matter how much the issue is a problem for you and no matter how much you love that person. So, either accept it or leave.'

Wow, so many people come into therapy wanting to change their partner, when actually the heart of love is acceptance.

She's right, unless that person wants to change, you will never succeed in making them into the person you want them to be...

But still this story about hiding stuff is funny.

Happier thoughts to follow soon!

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