Explaining and Defending...

...only exacerbates conflict!!

'It took many years, but I finally accepted that defending and explaining only leads to more and more conflict, since the other person feels controlled and goes into resistance. For a long time I didn't want to see that defending and explaining were forms of control. After all, I just wanted them to see my point of view. What's controlling about that? I convinced myself that if only they understood me, then they would change.'

This is a great article by Dr Margaret Paul. To read the full post click below:


http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/2812/the-myth-of-explaining-and-defending.html

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